Scott Ross and his wife, Jeni, experienced the tragedy of a medically induced abortion due to fetal anomaly. Hear how this experience forever changed his life in “Out From Under The Rug.”
Scott Ross is a tech professional and father of three young daughters. He has lived in Austin for seven years with his wife, Jeni. He grew up in New Jersey, went to school at Boston University, and has lived in New York and San Francisco. He spends too much time on sports and making jokes.
Theme: “Out From Under The Rug”
Storyteller: Britt Payne
When Britt Payne discovered she was pregnant, she thought “everything would fall into place.” The opposite occurred. “I want the whole package,” the man said, “and you are not it.” Britt questioned everything. “Would I bring this little spirit into the world, knowing that its father would likely dip in and out, a sentence of a lifetime of heartache? Or would I have an abortion and set the spirit free? ” No easy answers, but in choosing to terminate her pregnancy, Britt ventured onto a path of self-love where she realized that she actually is the whole package.
In 1972, before the landmark Roe v. Wade decision, Sherry Merfish had an abortion at a clinic in New Mexico–the only state to offer an exception to U.S. anti-abortion laws. Hear her personal story in “Out From Under The Rug.”
Sherry Merfish has had a long career in advocacy and fundraising. Sherry holds a B.A. from the University of Texas, a M.A. in American Studies from USC, and a J.D. from the University of Houston Law Center. Sherry lives in Houston despite an extreme dislike of both mosquitoes and heat. She and her husband, Gerald, are the proud parents of two daughters, Brett and Beth.
What would you title the autobiography of your life? Champion of Women and Girls.
What inspired you to participate in Oral Fixation? I am committed to social change in a variety of ways. I wholeheartedly believe in advocating for women to emerge from the shadows to reclaim their reproductive history and the choices they have made. It’s harder to hate up close, once people identify an abortion story with a person they know, respect, and love.
What is your favorite smell? Simmering chicken soup with matzo balls, because it evokes memories of my maternal grandmother, Yetta, who modeled boundless love.
Who is your favorite cartoon character? Growing up in the 1950s, Brenda Starr stood out, because she actually had adventures and an occupation as a reporter!
Sneak peak: “The momentous, landmark Roe v. Wade decision, which would make abortion legal and which was argued courageously by Sarah Weddington, was mere months away. But as far as my situation was concerned, the decades of statutes criminalizing abortion were very much in effect.”
Carole Wall and her husband were excited to have a baby, but their lives changed forever after receiving devastating news during the 20-week sonogram. Hear Carole reflect on her experience with abortion in “Out From Under The Rug.”
Carole Wall was born and raised in Austin. She has a bachelor’s degree in Behavioral Sciences and a master’s degree in Liberal Arts. She is the Manager of Grants for Planned Parenthood of Greater Texas and the mother of a 6-year-old daughter.
What inspired you to participate in Oral Fixation? I welcome any opportunity to discuss abortion and the way my life has changed since I took control over telling my story. We can’t necessarily write the plot of our lives, but we can write the chapters.
What is your favorite word? Any curse word will do when my daughter isn’t around.
What do you want to be when you grow up? Fulfilled.
What is the weirdest compliment that you’ve ever received? I have had more than one dental professional comment on the strength of my tongue. I don’t think it’s actually a compliment, but it’s definitely weird.
Sneak peak: “Knowing that your daughter is dying is heartbreaking. When you are given the news that there is nothing that can be done to save your baby’s life, it feels like your soul has been ripped apart. But we had a decision to make.”
Don’t miss these upcoming stories told live @ ZACH Theatre, Austin, on Monday, October 10.
This fall, Oral Fixation (An Obsession with True Life Tales) sweeps out the shame with “Out From Under The Rug: True Life Tales of Abortion.” Powerful, personal stories, “Out From Under The Rug” will tug at your heartstrings with empowering tales from men and women whose lives have been affected by abortion and women’s rights activism. Taking the stage at the Zach Theatre on Monday, October 10 at 8 p.m., our storytellers will motivate, impact, and encourage audience members to join them in chipping away at the stigma of abortion. From clinic workers to women’s rights advocates, from brave young women to mothers and fathers dealing with tragedy, “Out From Under The Rug” will personalize stories that often get distorted by the political spotlight. In advance of the presidential election this November, our presenters will leave viewers with more understanding of real experiences from a variety of different perspectives. Do not miss this show! $25 tickets are on sale now! Keep an eye out for more details: storyteller profiles will be published in the coming days. First, though, some introductions are in order:
- Carole Wall was excited to have a baby but learned her daughter had a terminal condition 20 weeks into the pregnancy. Despite her grief, she elects to testify in the Capital and later forms a bond with Wendy Davis.
- After having two abortions, each at different stages of her life, Mayela Gutknecht lives her dream as a Public Health nurse in San Francisco.
- Scott Ross shares a husband’s perspective of the tragedy of of a medically induced abortion due to fetal anomaly, and how it changed his and his wife’s lives forever.
- Valerie R. Peterson chooses abortion after learning the baby she is carrying has a condition that is 100% incompatible with life. Her decision to terminate the pregnancy was complicated by Texas Bill HB2, so she becomes an advocate for women’s rights.
- In 1972, before the landmark Roe v. Wade decision, Sherry Merfish has an abortion at a clinic in New Mexico–the only location to offer an exception to US anti-abortion laws. Almost 40 years later, her daughter writes an Op-Ed called “My Mother’s Abortion.”
- After having an abortion as a teenager, Elise Bilodeau devotes her life to working in an abortion clinic and helping other women.
- Although she now identifies as queer, Shiloh Venable had an abortion many years ago and shares how this unique experience has shaped her life.
Join us on Monday, October 10, at 8 p.m. at the ZACH Theatre. $25 individual tickets are on sale now. More info to come on every storyteller as their profiles are published in the coming days. We can’t wait to see you there!
On Wednesday, September 21, hundreds of people packed into Dallas City Performance Hall to witness a moment in history. For the first time in Dallas, a group of men and women were set to share their own, true personal stories related to abortion. This special edition of Oral Fixation (An Obsession with True Life Tales), entitled “Out From Under The Rug,” was created, produced, and directed by Oral Fixation founder Nicole Stewart, who shared her own abortion story in the OF show, “Bun in the Oven,” and felt compelled to push the envelope even further: an entire show of stories about abortion. Her hope: humanize this hot-button topic that has been stigmatized and moralized, and in this election year, open up a space where a conversation can begin. “It is time to #SweepOutTheShame of abortion,” Nicole has said. And given the crowd that showed up for #OutFromUnderTheRug, she is far from alone in her thinking.
Emily Cortez struggled with feelings of shame and isolation, knowing that she was not prepared to have a child. Hear her personal story in “Out From Under The Rug.”
Emily Cortez is a third generation Texan from Dallas. Her hobbies include reading, writing, playing her flute and the occasional attempt to learn new cooking recipes. Currently, she keeps busy by running an online vintage boutique called 829 Vintage and is launching a project to help Mexico fight poverty.
What’s your favorite part about Oral Fixation? Raw, emotional performances. Every story keeps you on the edge of your seat.
What inspired you to participate in Oral Fixation? I felt like it was important to show a woman who was sure of her decision, especially because I am Catholic and Hispanic. Our traditions are a bit outdated; I want women to know there are other options and choices in their lives.
Who is your favorite cartoon character and why? Muttley from the Hannah Barbara cartoons. I think I laugh just like him (or so I have been told).
What is your favorite Dallas hangout? Wild Detectives and The Great American Hero (the best sandwich place ever).
Sneak peak: “There was an ongoing struggle within myself as to whether I should be feeling guilty or not. I felt the guilt reemerge sometimes because I realized there was no guilt anymore.”
When his best friend makes the decision to end her pregnancy, Clark stays by her side and helps her through the emotions, grief, and acceptance she feels, and he tells us the touching story in “Out From Under The Rug.”
Clark Harding grew up in Homer, Alaska. He lives in LA, where he is a Visual Effects Artist for feature films and commercials. A compulsive traveler, Clark made it to all seven continents before the age of 30 and will be returning to Antarctica this winter for the second time.
What would you name the autobiography of your life? Strange Things Done in the Midnight Sun.
What is your favorite word? Exquisite, as in, “I find fit, older gentlemen to be absolutely EXQUISITE.”
If you could meet anyone, living or dead, who would it be? Sigourney Weaver
Name one thing you miss about being a kid: Playing with Barbies.
Sneak peak: “…It never occurred to me that the root of the problem is an inequality of gender, a lack of understanding of said inequality, and the imposition of a male experience on to a female issue. I thought I was being supportive, but really I was just going through the motions without really considering the context of what women go through.”
Caught up in a brittle on-again-off-again relationship, Britt Payne learns that her pregnancy will not create the stability she longs for. Hear her emotional story in “Out From Under The Rug.”
Britt Payne is a Dallas native from a long line of Texans. She adores her husband, her hounds, and an ice-cold martini. A proud member of a cookbook club, she’ll talk grub any chance she gets. She prefers sunshine along with a rainy Sunday (a good excuse to cuddle up).
What inspired you to participate in Oral Fixation? This is such an important topic. I want to help move the conversation forward and hopefully help people see matters from a different perspective.
What do you want to be when you grow up? A mermaid.
What is your favorite Dallas hangout? Louie’s. That’s where I got engaged!
Name one thing you miss about being a kid: I miss the moments when time seemed to move really slowly- those long summer days. Now, time appears to be on warp speed.
Sneak peak: “Upon learning that I was pregnant, I was cautiously happy and extremely nervous. The reality of what I had done hit me like a ton of bricks. It became very real and I was flooded with so many thoughts and emotions.”